Pick Right Partner

However, it will be very suicidal if you master that courage to propose and your proposal is turned down. Can you imagine how you will really feel when you do not succeed? You only have to keep on trying until you succeed.

The question is, how will you know whether the one you have chosen is your right partner; whether they really love you? Real love is a natural feeling which develops as time goes on, but the one who loves you will always express his or her concern for you. They will be ready to die for you, to share your difficult or joyful moment with you.

In this case, choosing the right partner will depend on the criteria you set in judging anybody that comes into your life. When you are very ambitious and set a high standard for yourself, you have to work at it. You know what you really want, so you don’t have to give up when your first attempt is turned down. You have to keep on trying until you finally grab your taste. You don’t have to settle down with anybody that comes your way, even when you are desperately in need, try to control your feelings and allow time to work it out for you.

However, you can also look at the bits and pieces of your previous relationship and use them as a way of setting standard for your new catch. Some people turn to ignore some nice guys or pretty ladies around their area and go out there looking for Mr or Mrs right outside their community. The guy who is very familiar with you, nice, sincere and smiles at you may be the right person to fall in love with, But how will you know; unless you make the move and propose to the person. Even when no one is coming forward, you have to go out there and propose to anyone that meets your prescription but you will actually face rejections. Rejections are not the end of the world,so when you are turned down, just go ahead, and you might succeed the next time around.

You can also use following strategies when selecting your right partner, but it will depend upon your effort in making your choice.

You really have to examine yourself first and know exactly what you really want. But most at times, your wants may be different from your choice.

Set a standard or criteria for the type of person you want to choose as a partner and work at it vigorously.

Do not forget to realize that it is not easy or it may not come to you automatically. So you have to go and look for it until you finally grab it.

Rejections are inevitable and you must be prepared for it. This should not discourage you but you must endeavour to pursue further and have the positive feeling that, you will succeed.

Show love and kindness to anyone you get into contact with, and this will open new doors for you to receive the same kind of love in return. So the possibility of facing rejection may not be frequent. However, it hurts when you do not receive the same love back, but all the same, you have to take the risk and think positively for a big catch. After you have got your right partner, you have to work very hard to sustain the relationship and allow it to work very well.

You must look at the threat in the relationship and not the blanket figure of the person you are walking with. The outward appearance of the person may lure you into the relationship, but that is not all; look out for the inner world or the character of your partner and be sure that you have finally chosen your heartÂ’s desire.

It Is So Hard to Move On

1. You are not ready to give up on the relationship you had thought was going great. There was a time that things were going great between the two of you and maybe it can be that way again. It can be normal to want to bring back those good feelings you had and maybe it is even possible. The thing is how can you ever make it happen?

2. Could you believe your ex still has feelings for you? You could be right, deep down inside them they could still care about you. But you have been getting the cold shoulder treatment after breaking up which means those feelings are buried deep. Over a period of time your ex will be dealing with their personal consequences of the break up and could ultimately move on. On the other hand your ex may find they still have love in their heart for you and want to rekindle the relationship.

3. You may think you are ready to move on with your life but you still have strong feelings towards your ex. You think there is still a chance to get back with them and want to make an effort to make it work. You may even be in the position that you think there is no chance you will ever get them back, but still hold out hope you can.

Some Secret to Loving Relationships

Make Relationship Time A High Priority

One of the greatest experiences in life is the sharing of love, and this takes time. Learning, growth, intimacy, connection and passion are the natural results of creating a safe, open, kind and loving relationship space, and all this takes times. Spending connected time together relaxing, laughing, sharing and cuddling are essential for creating a long-lasting, thriving loving relationship.

Cultivate an Intent To Learn With Yourself And Your Partner

We need to be able to rely on ourselves and each other to stay open to learning about our wounds and our resulting controlling protective behavior. There is nothing that grinds love down more than controlling behaviors, such as those mentioned above, or behavior that is intent on avoiding your feelings – such as ignoring your feelings, judging yourself and your partner, or turning to addictions to numb your feelings.

If you are currently not in a relationship, then take this time to learn to stay open with your own feelings and learn what they are telling you, rather than continue to abandon yourself when you feel pain. Learning to stay open with yourself makes it much easier to stay open with your partner.

If you are currently in a relationship, do the same thing. Take time to learn to be present with your own feelings, with an intent to learn.

Practice Focusing On Kindness With Yourself And Your Partner

Just as an openness to learning is essential in creating a safe relationship space, so is kindness. If you were not brought up with kindness and you have been judgmental with yourself and others, rather than kind, then you need to keep the concept of kindness in the forefront of your mind.

Relationships flourish when loving yourself and your partner is your highest priority. For most people, protecting against pain has been their highest priority, so it takes much practice to successfully make love a higher priority than avoiding pain.

Develop Your Spiritual Connection

Relationships flounder when you make your partner your source of love. Your partner isn’t supposed to be your higher power – you have your own higher power and this is your infinite source of love. When your intent is to learn about loving yourself and your partner, and you open to learning about this with a source of spiritual guidance, you will learn to fill yourself with love to share with your partner. Trying to have control over getting love ruins relationships. Sharing love creates intimacy and connection with your partner.